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Welcome to the Cloth Diapers for Beginners Facebook Group!

We’re so so glad you joined the Cloth Diapers for Beginners Facebook Group! To get the MOST you can out of the group, there are a few things you should know, and specifically:

Don’t Get Overwhelmed by the Troubleshooting Posts!

We know this is all new to you, and while cloth diapers themselves are not that complicated, the cloth diaper community can be complex and on Facebook it gets more complicated (doesn’t everything?).

Don’t get overwhelmed by all the posts for help. The group is where people go to ask questions, solve their problems and get help… so you’re going to see a LOT of problems posted, but that’s not the norm. This group has 10’s of thousands of members, most of whom are NOT posting because they are doing just fine.

And by the way, if you are having problems, we have a ton of resources here for you to get started, including help with:

You Must Read and Abide By the Group Rules

The group now has a number of rules to keep you from getting hurt or taken advantage of in one way or another.

Note there are several rules about **what you can absolutely not post (**like rep. or coupon codes, used diapers for sale posts, or pictures of your baby without clothing or diapers on, to name just a few).

If you don’t agree to the rules we ask that you please remove yourself from the group as this is how we operate. If you break the rules you can (and will most likely be) removed quickly and with no explanation due (this is the explanation).

If you see someone breaking a rule, please report it and do not assume just because the admin has not seen the post (yet) it’s now allowed.

Here are the Group Rules: (Updated July 10, 2020)

Admission

To keep the group members and their children safe, no one will be admitted into the group (including your invitees) unless they:

Rules of Conduct

01) DON’T ASK FOR OR RECOMMEND RESOURCES FOR A GENERIC WASH ROUTINE

We don’t do generic wash routines here. Instead, we promote wash routines that are tailored to your washer (or lack thereof), water hardness, detergent, and load size (how many diapers you’re washing). This reduces the chances of detergent or mineral buildup on your diapers, which is the cause of 99% of wash problems you see posted in the other groups.

To keep members from giving you false advice they get from other groups, we don’t allow posts that don’t include all of the information necessary to create a personalized routine.

We also don’t allow members to recommend wash routines or other wash and care groups. This just leads to confusion and dirty diapers.

To make things easy, you can post a copy of your Wash Worksheet for help https://clothdiapersforbeginners.com/how-to-wash-cloth-diapers/, or your wash recipe page from the Cloth Diapers for Beginners Wash & Care Handbook (https://clothdiapersforbeginners.com/cloth-diaper-care-handbook/).

Both of those resources explain things and help you gather the necessary info.

02) BE KIND – ABSOLUTELY NO MOM SHAMING / DAD SHAMING OR BULLYING 

Members are encouraged to express their opinions openly and honestly without fear of rejection, but without generalizing, or using insulting words.

There will be zero tolerance for any form of bullying or mom-shaming anybody whatsoever: we understand that people disagree on occasion, but we won’t tolerate members disrespecting each other. No personal attacks, no “this parenting choice is wrong because x,y,z,” no irony/sarcasm, and no passive-aggressive GIF’s or Facebook reaction emoji’s. If you don’t like something, ignore it! Avoid righteousness and keep your ego in check.

“If You Have Nothing Nice To Say, You Really Should Say Nothing“ Unless opinions are asked for, you will give none, including bashing of any parenting choices in particular or in general in order to show/prove that some other parenting decisions are better/faster/healthier etc. than the one you are bashing. E.g. “I can’t believe you circumcized/didn’t circumcise your child because of x,y,z.” Also, don’t bother passing on “helpful” resources that prove a parenting decision is “wrong, harmful, dangerous,, etc.” without those resources being asked for as that is mom-shaming. Concentrate on the specific diaper-related question asked and only answer it, or move on.

Freedom of speech – yes, but NOT in the form of bashing other moms who make different choices than your own.

#03) DON’T MAKE CONFLICTS WORSE 

Members suffering rude & bullying behavior/comments/attacks/insults from other members MUST report those comments to groups’ admins for the final ruling without answering in the same (rude) way to those members/in the discussion, behavior if they want to avoid punishment for their rude answers as well.

#04) CLOTH DIAPER-RELATED POSTS ONLY (I.E. NO NCDR POSTS) 

Absolutely no political, parenting, or other posts that are NCDR (Not Cloth Diaper Related).

#05) DON’T PUBLISH ANY PHOTOS OF YOUR BABY WITHOUT CLOTHING OR A DIAPER ON – NO EXCEPTIONS! 

Fit-check photos are ok, but Facebook has made it clear by giving us penalties in the past: photo editing tools are not enough, all photos must have clothing or a diaper on the baby or they will be removed.

Digital censoring with stickers or pen tools, etc. are not allowed. A hand covering baby’s sensitive areas is also not enough, it must be a fully snapped-on diaper or clothing.

#06) RESPECT EVERYONE’S PRIVACY 

Being part of this group requires mutual trust. Authentic, expressive discussions make groups great, but may also be sensitive and private. What’s shared in the group must stay in the group.

If anyone is caught sharing information or screenshots of other people’s posts or information that has personally identifiable information outside of this group, they will be banned and reported to Facebook.

#07) DON’T POST THE FOLLOWING POSTS/COMMENTS/POLLS

Including:

We all hate spam, and thankfully there is a simple way to deal with it: on the upper right-hand corner of a spam post please click on “Report to admin” and someone on the admin team of this group will take care of it.

* Admins may publish some of the above-stated posts if they assess it is in the group’s interest.

#08) DON’T BLOCK ADMINS

#09) DON’T PM/DM

Don’t offer or ask publicly in the Group for personal help via PMs/DMs.

Don’t offer services via PM/DM, add people to mailing lists, or disturb them with unwanted PMs/DMs, etc. Members who receive such spam can report it to the Cloth Diapers for Beginners page (with some screenshots proves) so the admin can remove/ban the spammer.

Don’t PM/DM admins/moderators directly, for any reason. Direct the PM/DM to the Cloth Diapers for Beginners page.

While you may need to DM the page for certain admin activities that require anonymity, do not DM the page for:

We are in the Group where we want to help others, share knowledge and thus learn new things – in the group’s public discussion.

If you need to reach a specific admin, make a post tagging them. If the question requires secrecy, and ONLY if the question requires secrecy (like when reporting DM’s), DM the page.

Group Best Practices 

While these are not rules, here are some tips to get the most out of this group:

1) Search First!

Have a look at past group posts and search this website before asking your questions. And don’t forget to check out the Cloth Diapers 101 page.

Many questions we have when beginning to use cloth diapers are the same and we often have several of the same question posted within minutes of each other.

To cut down on repetition and therefore increase the number of responses each post can get, search first.

If you post your question & it’s already been answered, one of the admins could post a link to the previous question & close off further commenting or (if your question was very simple & redundant) it won’t be answered at all, and may be deleted.

2) Don’t Skip Other People’s Comments

Read other responses/comments before you write your response.

3) Don’t Hijack Some Else’s Post

Start new topics in their own thread, not as a comment on someone else’s thread.

As Dr. Garby told our community in our interview with her about diaper rashes (click here to read it) rashes are not more common in cloth diapers, but they happen. While you may be able to get some opinions in this group, they are not professional and often contradictory. Some forms of diaper rash, like yeast and eczema, may require medication and therefore need a doctor to diagnose them.

For the health and safety of your baby, always consult a pediatrician when dealing with a rash, or any medical-related issue. If you don’t want the main piece of advice you receive to be, “go see a doctor” go see one first.

If You’ve Read this Far

If you’ve read this far, you’re already a group superstar and I’d love to see you post a star emoji ⭐ in the welcome post I tagged you on in the group. Shhh, 🤫 don’t explain and we’ll see how many we get!

While you’re back there, post away with any questions, concerns and wins too! Or feel free to watch the discussion for a while and get comfortable with this cloth thing.

Chat soon!